The Problem With Fine

Does anybody else spend hours watching TED talks? I’d love to attend a live talk, but unfortunately tickets are out of my price range. Thankfully, they are recorded and uploaded to YouTube where we can watch them for free. For those of you that don’t know, Ted talks are events that feature experts from a wide range of fields who present their research, ideas, and dreams.

One of the most recent talks I stumbled upon was “How to stop screwing yourself over” by Mel Robbins. She says that one of our biggest problems is saying that we are fine—to others and to ourselves—because it is often a lie.

“Tell the truth…The bigger issue with fine is that you say it to yourself. That thing that you want, I guarantee you, you’ve convinced yourself that you’re fine not having it. That’s why you’re not pushing yourself.”

Are there things that you want to have or improve upon that seem too hard or daunting to go after? Maybe it is a job, a relationship, or a big lifestyle change. When the going gets rough, do you tell yourself that you are fine with your current situation? Fine is a word that we use when we scared of failing. I’ve been afraid to go after certain opportunities and instead of admitting that I don’t want to try, I’ve told myself that I’m happy with what I’ve got, even though I’m not. Just an unhealthy dose of self-deception! Don’t self-sabotage. Be honest with yourself about what you want, recognize that you are worthy of having it, capable to achieving it, and go for it.

Watch the talk here: